Emma C – Better Chance At Love? Try A Female Developed App

I came across this article that claims that if you’re looking for a better chance at online dating, try alternatives that are developed by women. It think it’s an interesting notion to think that you may have a better chance at love when you spend time on apps like Coffee Meets Bagel or Bumble.

The article attributes the success to how women developed apps because they are more in tune to ‘what women want’ as male ones do not. It claims that Tinder and OkCupid is more for superficial purposes and does not get to know the user. Coffee Meets Bagel gives you custom matches with mutual friends, the opportunity for feedback, and only one match a day. In addition to this, Bumble not only creates connections but it forces matches to have conversation as females are the only ones who are allowed to begin discussion.

I’d like to know – is there really a difference? Do you know of any success stories on Tinder?

GeekWire – Want a better chance at a relationship? Try a dating app founded by women

Facebook Makes Breakups Easier – Rochelle S

facebook-breakups-1-1024x822Having troubles moving on from a break-up? Maybe you’re checking your ex’s social media too much. According to this study, individuals who surveil their former romantic partner’s Facebook are more likely to have a more difficult time moving on.

To help you with this, Facebook has just released a new tools that will, “Help people manage how they interact with their former partners on Facebook after a relationship has ended,” according to Facebook product manager Kelly Winters. Once you change your relationship status, individuals will be promoted to try these new features.

This WIRED article explains these features more in depth and provides some interesting insights on the “digital break-up” process. With these new tools, users will be able to:

  •  Prevent suggestions of the person’s name when tagging photos or people in updates
  • Limit the presence of the person’s updates/content in Newsfeed
  • Simultaneously untag themselves from photos with that person

Of course you could just delete the person from your Facebook…but that would be dramatic, right?

 

Rochelle S – Dating Strangers Online …and FILMING IT

I stumbled upon this YouTube series in which a girl names Alyx uses various apps and websites to meet potential dates and then films her dates with these people. There are many layers to this series – the use of the apps to connect with others, the filming of the dates, the publishing of the date videos on a YouTube channels that gets hundreds of thousands of views, and the community of people that engage using a specific hashtag. Through this, I considered ideas of digital intimacy, community, and online identity.

I linked the series here for educational purposes…also because it is hilariously addicting. Enjoy!

The Mobile Love Industry – Rochelle S

If you have a spare 30 minutes over your reading week to watch this video, definitely do!

Relevant to many of the topics we’ve touched on in this class, this video investigates the mobile love industry and the impact that has had on the way we meet people, fall in love, and have sex.

Here are some of the points that interested me:

  • It is estimated that by 2040 that 70% of all couples would have met online
  • The origins of online / mobile dating go back to the Victorian Era where people would use “Lonely Hearts Ads
  • The VP of Tech at Tinder infers that mobile dating technologies have contributed to the decline of divorce rates in North America
  • “The Internet reconfigures accessibility…Dating apps are a shift towards the normalization of gay people. That shift is to make people feel included, valued, and not an other.”
  • Sexual double standards – translated over to dating apps?
  • With mobile dating apps, “We view ourselves as single individuals connected to other single individuals.”
  • Apps like 3nder are being used to de-stigmatize kinky sex and group sex
  • What will happen when review mechanisms used on eBay or Amazon come to dating sites?

I would love for you to watch the video and see what your take is on the above points!

Happy reading week!

Kristen R C – The Yelp for People

Peeple is a recent app that you did not ask for. It is a user-review site for human beings, very similar to Yelp. Through this app a user can rate anyone they know on a one to five star rating system, which is split up into three categories, including personal, professional and romantic. Positive ratings are posted right away but ratings two and below go under review. One cannot delete any reviews including negative ones, however they can publicly defend themselves. Users must also be 21 with an established Facebook page and is added through their cell phone number.

Creators of the app claim that there are endless reasons as to why we would want the ability to reference check the people around us, and that they are “bold innovators…because we love you enough to give you this gift…whether you love us or our concept or not.” I disagree with their beliefs and idea of the concept, as there are major privacy issues surrounding this and our society is already based on judgements we make about people. When the app releases we will have a social media outlet that allows us and encourages us make judgements about others and post them for the Internet to see. Problems surrounding this app can include issues regarding reach, storage, replicability and future social interaction. We already have to self monitor our own actions on the internet, and now we have to monitor the actions others because they can have an impact on us.

How do you feel about the new app? Do you believe it is beneficial or will it just create more problems?

http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/oct/01/peeple-review-people-the-user-review-app-you-didnt-dare-ask-for

Christopher V. – How To Sewer Yourself For Online Dating

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It is widely accepted that online dating today has left its mark on how intimate relationships form. Increasingly, we see more people making the jump into the online dating world. Whether it is to find that perfect soul mate, or to add to participate in hook-up culture. Regardless of the reason, online dating changes the perception of the individual. Rather than being a person in the flesh, we are mediated through a profile among thousands on a screen. The job then becomes a marketing experiment, essentially finding the best way to have others think twice before moving on to the next profile. Now I could tell you what to write on your profile to have a match every time you swipe right, but that would be too easy. Okay thats a stretch if we knew exactly what to right on a dating profile everyone would have found there soul mate.

Instead here are the top ten guaranteed lines that will not get you a date;

“Over the bar scene.”

“Too busy to meet someone.”

“I can’t believe I’m online dating.”

“Looking for The One.”

“Tired of games.”

“Moonlit walks on the beach.”

“I live life to the fullest.”

“Want to be swept off my feet.”

“I work hard and play hard.”

“I want the total package.”

Something about each one of these lines come off as immediate red flags, with a hint of crazy. “Too busy to meet someone,” seems like your going to be too busy to date, or better yet its probably a lie and you’re trying to play it off like you have a life. Then you have likes like “I want to be swept off my feet,” or “I want the whole package.” Um I’m sorry your majesty who knew you had that sense of entitlement.

All in all, online dating can be a valuable tool to expand your network and meet the right match, just avoid the obvious “don’t’s”and you should be well on your way.

http://www.brobible.com/life/article/least-attractive-phrases-online-dating/

Rochelle S – Spotify is your Best Friend?

I’m a massive Spotify fan and have been recently taking advantage of the new Discover Weekly feature. Every Monday, Spotify generates a personalized playlist using an algorithm that combines your own musical tastes with new recommendations. According to the press release published by Spotify on July 20, Discover Weekly,” Is like having your best friend make you a personalised mixtape every single week.” What do you think about this claim?

The act of creating a custom mixtape for a friend has been around for ages, but now it no longer requires two human beings. Instead this intimate interaction relies on Spotify’s new algorithm. What implications does Discover Weekly and other playlist-generating apps have on the way we listen to and share content?